Brevity

Ideas are more impactful when we use fewer words to convey them. Want to sound smarter? Be a better writer? Explain something clearly? Be precise with your words. Use as few as possible.

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DIY Spirituality

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness. – Dalai Lama

Take a “DIY” approach to your spirituality. Don’t settle for pre-packaged ideology, unless it feels right for you. For me, a constantly-developing hybrid model of Buddhism, psychology and philosophy seems to work. (Examples at bottom of this post.)

Spiritual activities grow the sense of interconnectedness between ourselves, other humans and animals, the universe, and a divinity/creator, if you believe in one. Some people derive this sense of oneness from listening to a pastor’s sermon and singing songs at church. For others, yoga, meditation, sex, being immersed in nature, drug use, or a captivating musical performance may bring the same feelings. Find what works for you.

I am cautious of “pre-packaged” spirituality. Some religions come to mind: “Do x, y and z things and receive a bountiful afterlife.” Religion can be spiritually rich, but I think skepticism is healthy when considering religious doctrine.

Develop your spirituality by learning about different ideas, religions, and philosophies. Keep a “DIY” spiritual mindset. By following our own spiritual curiosity, we find activities that help us feel more at ease, connected and alive.

Examples of ideas that help me:
Philosophy // Alan Watts
Religion // Buddhism
Spiritual // Mysticism
Art/Music // Music and Spirituality
Nature // Forest Bathing
Psychology // Carl Jung and The Self

Friend

How long is a friend a friend
when they don’t treat you like one?
Is friendship simply perseverance and forgiveness?
What makes a friend?
Where does friendship end?

A friend is someone who sees the good and the bad
and knows when to let it be known
without bias or selfishness,
simply because they have your best interests in mind.
Someone who sees you over time
and wants you to succeed
in the ways that make you happy.
Who will back you up enough
to ease a situation’s weight,
without disregarding morality or courtesy,
without misleading,
without doing wrong to supposed enemies
or speaking ill of those targets of unease.

How long is a friend a friend?
Until a human decides that humans are not for them.
What makes a friend a friend?
Where does friendship end?

Lover Vs. Beloved

Humans in relationships generally fall into two roles, lover and beloved. In any relationship, love will never be perfectly reciprocated. There is always a person with stronger feelings. So the question is… would you rather be the lover or the beloved?

The beloved tends more often to be the object of the lover’s affection. Both are comfortable with their role, and the relationship thrives. I’ve experienced both sides. Both are possible with the right person.

Love may also be unconcerned with this. Love is not a choice. It seems certain women draw more feelings out of me than others. I don’t choose which ones.

Maybe a good relationship is one where the roles of lover and beloved are constantly changing, keeping each other on their toes.